30 July 2011, 11:51 pm
I am 26, and I'm still a virgin. I've never had any insecurities about this before and never felt like there was anything wrong with it. Lately though, I've read a few comments/posts on different websites from guys who say they would not date a virgin older than 20, any woman who hasn't had sex by the time she's in her mid-20s must have some weird hang-ups and there must be something wrong with her, etc. etc. etc. This actually really makes me mad, because I don't feel like there's anything wrong with me and it bugs me that people who don't even know me would automatically judge me based on one thing. I'm smart, kind, and very attractive according to everyone I know (body-wise, I've been compared to Teri Hatcher and Jennifer Aniston when they were younger, and people always tell me that I have a beautiful face too, especially my eyes). I'm not a prude and I have definitely felt attraction to guys - I just haven't met someone that really LIKED enough that I wanted to do anything with more than kissing. I've barely even dated at all. All through college I was a workaholic and only dated one guy VERY briefly - the relationship only lasted 3 weeks and I dumped him because he was pressuring me for sex and in general he was a jerk. I've never been in another relationship because, honestly, I just never got around to it even though I really want to fall in love more than anything. I'm also very shy, so any problems I have are really more social than sexual. There's nothing at all wrong with my libido - when I meet the right guy, I'll do it 'till the cows come home! But if guys have the attitude that there is something wrong with me just because I'm a virgin, how am I supposed to find that relationship??? I do really really want to be in a loving relationship with a guy, but I just haven't met the right one and I refuse to settle for just anyone. I also will not sleep with someone after just a few weeks - I need to be in love with the guy. I am not particularly religious, but I'm not opposed to waiting for marriage. I would certainly at least have to be in a serious relationship. People have suggested that I just go have sex with some random guy just to get that step over with, but I REFUSE to do that! I did not wait this long just for my first time to be meaningless and random! It sucks, because growing up I was always told that guys would want to marry girls who behave just as I turned out to be as an adult, and from what I'm seeing now it looks like the opposite is true. What do you think? Would my virginity really be a turn-off to guys my age?... Read More »
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